One boy's fantasy

Of the MANY plot holes in the whole Star Wars story (the movies anyway.. haven't read any of the books) the one that stands out the most, irritates me the most is the fact that an independant, intelligent, powerful, politically aware leader would even look twice at a whiny self-involved arrogant BOY, let alone love and marry him, carry his children, and have her heart broken by him. So important to the story, so far from reality.